The Silent Child

By: OG Stuff 👊🏾✨

Within a black household, lives the silent child. The child isn't silent but the hurt that child has, makes them silent to the world. The world doesn't understand their hurt, the world doesn't know they hurt and that's all because they managed to smile thru the pain and barely allow themselves to cry it out. Let me explain, the biggest issue with being a child within a black family is not being able to fully voice your opinion. Even if you are as correct as can be, the mother within the household doesn't want to hear shit you have to say. Now, when a black child decides to voice their opinion or say something in return of a minor disagreement, Mama Bear gets offended as hell. Yes, I understand you are a parent, but NO you will not talk crazy, sit and lie and be just wrong with what you're saying. Soon as you open your mouth, you're disrespectful but everything your mother said prior was equivalent to spitting in your face and you see nothing wrong with that? OK ...

Moving on. This starts molding the silent child. The Silent Child feels as though they have no outlet. They start to keep everything in, feeling like nothing they say matters. Depression starts rolling in and wondering why they can't kick what their doing. Next you have your self worth going down the drain, you feel as though everything you do isn't good enough, you don't get the praise you need from the people that matters most because of past occurrences. Mixing depression with your declining self worth, you feel like everyone is against you, why does people hate you, why can't you sit and discuss to your parents how you feel? Once you start discussing anything, you become this manipulative child because you can't get your way. When that happens you feel like you're in a casket, 6ft under and trying to scream only to realize the continuous burden of your feelings of neglect and non acceptance will put you there. You also feel that maybe your parents enjoy one child better than the other and you try soo hard to make them accept you for who you are and the changes you made because now you are better. The Silent Child barely cries, they managed to build this super hardened shell which makes them fell less but they also hurt more. People think the Silent Child is the most strongest person in the world. "How do you handle this, how doesn't this hurt you" because the Silent Child has heard those things, lived with those words, their own parents have a history of saying those specific things. You can't hurt if you've already dealt with those things on many occasions, you took it in and humbly accepted what your parents felt about you. You've been bullied at home, the outside world doesn't matter because you were able to take it from those that "mean the most" to you. The Silent Child is the child the parents wish they treated the same. The Silent Child is the hardest to love and accept. The Silent Child isn't the child you should forget.

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